The restoration of a life is a journey. To think that we just wake up one day and expect the physical and emotional component of our humanity to forget is unrealistic. We live in the here and now. The wounds, the injuries, the scars are reminders that can lead us to important and relevant thought processes for the future. How do you view the visuals of “what has been“? Do you languish in regret, do you feel embittered by the unexpected trajectory, do you unendingly grieve for what was lost or do you feel compassion for your own humanity and the circumstances that have befallen upon your life? Being able to take that satellite view of ourselves and our circumstances is the essence of living with a meaningful now. The determinative value of what you have is where you start. What can you offer to yourself and to others? What is feasible for the person that you are, at this moment? Giving does provide purpose and healing, it also creates a sense of belonging. However, you must assess where you are in your process and determine how much you can give and still be cognizant of your own need for healing. That is why I believe that some measured and beneficial socialization, in seasons of wounding, is very important yet we must surround ourselves with people who regard injury as serious be it physical or emotional.
“What is” sets the groundwork for “what will be“. To forget that fact is setting yourself up for a prolonged and rigorous healing process. Resting in honor of “what has been” is not weakness, it is recognizing that our container has limitations and that our mind is designed to listen when that container begins to speak. I have pressed on without listening and the duration of suffering has gone on for far too long as a result. The “have to’s” are inevitable, we have to get up and go to work (unless there are actual recognizable physical or mental injuries), we have to interact with civility, we have to attend events and care for the needs of dependents but we MUST have intention about our own health and psychological well-being. Understanding the “why” behind what I’m saying is important. If you understand the “why”, you can vocalize that to yourself and to others without either shame or guilt. A lack of understanding concerning the body and its design for seasons of healing creates havoc because obligations remain as have been but the situation cannot sustain those obligations for reasons that are obvious but hidden, simply through lack of knowledge. Emotional wounds have indicators but those are often not visible with casual interaction. To forget the holistic component of ourselves and those we interact with is to deny a complete understanding of who we are as human beings.
“What is” shapes the foundation for “what will be“. The old saying, “it has good bones” is true for the assessment process of any perceived or actual structural restoration process. Seeing and honoring what is good and still intact reassures our minds that there is hope. Keeping a positive outlook is sustaining for the breath. Even the smallest moments of gratefulness have a profound effect upon our emotional stability and willingness to continue in seasons of rebuilding. “What is” is not the end, it is simply the fuel for the human spirit to rise. The future depends on what we do with the season of “what is“, being cognizant of the fact that we are in that season allows for a wise and meaningful rebuild. The practicality of standing on the rubble, as a point of reassessment, is the actual grounding for both our emotional and physical processes especially during this season of time. Keep that visual, sear it into your mind, it will help in understanding the need to be held and to allow for that holding. It has been wisely said, “do not treat your wound as if it is not serious“, honorably recognize and allow that healing to begin.